Menopause Through His Eyes

When Lucy started changing, I didn’t know what was happening.

At first, it was small things. She was tired all the time. She’d wake up soaked in sweat and frustrated. She stopped sleeping, and so did I. The intimacy we once shared—the laughter, the closeness, the little touches—started to fade.

She didn’t talk about it much, and I didn’t know what to ask. I could feel her pulling away, but I didn’t know how to reach her. We’d always been solid. But this was something neither of us had planned for.

The worst part? I could see she was suffering, and I didn’t know how to help.

There were nights she’d lie awake staring at the ceiling, and I’d just stay still beside her, not knowing what to say. I missed her, and I think she missed herself.

But then something changed.

She told me she was done suffering in silence. She started seeing a naturopath, then hired a menopause coach. She talked to me more—about her body, her mood, her fears. I finally understood that this wasn’t “just getting older.” It was something deeper.

She started this whole new wellness routine—taking natural supplements, getting IV treatments, changing how she ate, how she moved, how she rested. At first, I’ll admit, I was skeptical. But then I saw her changing—not just physically, but emotionally.

She was laughing again. Sleeping through the night. Reaching for my hand. Touching me with intention.

I’ll never forget the night she looked at me and said, “I’m starting to feel like myself again.”

It made me emotional, because I hadn’t realized just how much I’d missed her until I had her back. And weirdly, it felt like we were falling in love all over again—but this time, more consciously.

Menopause doesn’t just happen to one person—it happens to both people in a relationship. And the truth is, I wish more men talked about it. I wish someone had told me that patience, presence, and real partnership could make all the difference.

Watching Lucy reclaim her body and her confidence was one of the most powerful things I’ve ever witnessed.

And I’m proud to be by her side—not just as her partner, but as her witness in this next chapter.